KISSING TIPS

The argument for women was always the fear of looking loose or seeming like a tramp by allowing a man to go too far on the first date or too soon in the relationship. Today, kissing on the first date really doesn’t signify anything at all besides an out of date myth.

If two people on a dating night out feel comfortable enough and want to have a kiss on the first date, what would be the harm? That’s right, nothing at all! A simple kiss is very much harmless and in most cases does not lead to sex at the front door of her apartment. It really is not that big of a deal, unless of course you are talking to your grandmother.

Times have changed and many of the dating taboo issues are no longer circulating, but there
are a few that still plague relationships everywhere.

Would you believe that there are still many women that are under the impression that they can not call a guy first, because they might look bad.

Why because they are taking control, being aggressive or assertive?

What have women fought for over the past fifty years? The very things that I mentioned. In the corporate world women want to be seen as equal and no longer controlled or dominated by men. Today there are many businesses that are run by women, completely without a man’s direction!
 

Now, for the subject of sex on the first date. In my opinion it is not a great idea. At Hearts Love Affair we do not condone premarital intercourse. Hearts Love Affair does not intend to lecture anyone on moral or ethical issues. But first and foremost we are in the business of providing a mechanism for individuals to find romance. To find that deep inner feeling that only comes from true love. A feeling where the relationship is strong. In a dating relationship it is a good to get to know a little bit about someone first. It is quite often difficult to find out people's true background and personality if you just hop into bed with them although kissing on the first date wont really hurt either of you.

There are a ton of sexually transmitted diseases and unplanned pregnancies that people end up dealing with after a quick sexual experience. So try and hold off on sexual activity until later. 

Several people would argue that regardless of one date or twenty-five dates they will still not know the ins and outs of the other person such as their thoughts about having children or their financial obligations.

While this statement is true, it's also true that you may never be able to completely know a person.
 

Did you ever think about that?

There are many people that date for years and then end up married to later divorce. Many of them quote the fact that the other person was hiding something from them and they never really knew them at all.

Dating can be very complex and there are many issues to bear in mind when considering kissing on the first date or taking it further.

While there are many people that cite religious and moral issues, others claim that sex on the first date is fine.

Kissing on the first date can give you a very good idea as to how your potential partner is going to conduct him or herself in bed. Are they fast? Rushed? Slow? Sensual? Do they seem a bit lost and confused? Do they make a mess? These things can easily carry over into bedroom.
 

For some, knowing this upfront can save a great deal of time that might otherwise be wasted on someone you're not compatible with.

Kissing on the first date can tell a woman precisely how self-absorbed and selfish a man is. Does he stop when you tell him to stop? Does he try to guilt you into taking things further than the line you've already drawn? If this is in his character on date one, it'll still be there in year ten, so this can help you weed out the losers.

Kissing on a first date can tell a man precisely how loose a woman is. Are you having to fend her off before you even leave Denny's? If so, this may be good to know on day one. Sure, some of you will love it if she is -- just don't fall for that, "I don't normally do this" line, okay?

Kissing well can leave a man or woman with something to think about between the end of date 1 and the start of date 2. This can add an excitement that often plays out in your favor. Use it to your advantage and have them panting for you as they wait for the next date.
 

An expression as simple as a kiss seems to be very frightening for many people. It really should not be that way. Let's take a look at the best kissing tips and how you can make sure you are ready when the big moment arrives.

1. To start with you have to relax and be yourself. If you are comfortable with the person you are getting ready to kiss you do not need to feel nervous. Whether you have kissed much in the past or not you can do this.

2. Look into your partners eyes with a warm smile to set the stage. If they are gazing back and not looking away you are getting a good go ahead signal. If they turn their head they may not be ready.

3. Now you are ready to move close and touch your date. This can be with your hands lightly on their face or just holding hands. Your head should tilt slightly and theirs will be in the opposite direction. Either way is fine.

4. Relax your lips and close your eyes. If your head is aligned correctly you will not bump heads. Just move in slowly. If you have a little lip balm you should have applied it before now. You want your lips to not be dry, but licking them over and over before you kiss is a bad idea.
 

5. Keep your lips relaxed and move in slowly. Slightly open your lips before they touch your partner's lips. Keep your tongue in your mouth and your jaw relaxed. Keep your head tilted and enjoy the moment. We say keep your tongue in your mouth because this is not a French Kiss right now.

6. The kiss should be short and sweet. Just align your lips with theirs and if you are doing it right you may think it is happening in slow motion. You may even experience a slight light headedness if you are lucky.

7. As the best kiss ends just pull away slowly and make eye contact. With a warm smile enjoy the moment. You may want to say something such as "that was nice." 

The best piece of advice to give you is this...

You are the only one that can decide what is right for you.

One final word on kissing. That first kiss is magical. Make the first one good and expressive. Your partner will remember this kiss forever.