Tip 5: Have An Active Social Life

What I mean by “Have an active social life” isn’t that you should be going out to clubs every night of the week. I mean you should fill your life with activities you enjoy, that also bring you into contact with other people (and preferably, bring you into contact with women!)
For instance, let’s say you enjoy martial arts. Take a class so you can learn martial arts. This way, you’re building a skill, getting exercise, and interacting with people.
The same thing can be said for joining a gym, but working out at a gym could be more of a solitary hobby. Be sure to do things that put you into interactions with others.
An active social life can include belonging to a church group, a book club, or even pursuing a hobby of some type. As long as you have active interest in something where other people have interest as well, you will be putting yourself in situations where you not only get to meet people, but you create the possibility of making new friends and expanding your social circle.
Expanding your social circle is very important, and I’ll get to why in the next tip…

Tip 4: Groom Yourself

This is the last tip in the “looks” trinity that I’m gonna go through. Grooming is very important, not just when it comes to how others respond to you, but how you feel about yourself.
There is simply no excuse for poor grooming these days. And bad hygiene is one of the most unattractive things to women. You can be the best looking guy in the world, but if your breath is so bad you can take the paint off walls, no woman is gonna want to be within 10 feet of you.
Like your look, you have a lot of control over your grooming. A simple thing like showering before you go out can go a long way. Properly washing your hair, underarms, and unmentionable areas will make you feel clean and stave off odors.
The use of deodorant is a must. Avoid that gamy “Eurostink” smell as much as possible. There’s a school of thought that the natural pheromones will attract women, but I’ve yet to see that actually work in real life.
Trim any nose or ear hairs you may have. You can do this quickly and easily if you purchase a nose hair trimmer of some type. But nothing is more unattractive than a single long hair hanging out of either the ear or the nose.
Speaking of ears, clean those suckers. Use q-tips to get in there and dig out the wax. You never know when a tongue may be in there! And while you’re at it, wash behind the ears as well.
Trim your eyebrows if they’re bushy or you’ll suffer from the dreaded “unibrow” syndrome. Get it waxed if you have to, but whatever you do, get it under control.
Shave before you go out too. Try to get a nice, close, clean shave if you can. Women like a smooth face.
Keep any facial hair clean and neatly trimmed. You can do this with a special facial hair shaver.
Use a good cologne. Don’t go for cheap stuff like Old Spice or anything like that. Invest in a good cologne and smell nice for the ladies.
These are basics. There are many things you can do to keep yourself looking and feeling good. Just remember to put your best foot forward and you’ll never go wrong with the ladies.

Tip 3: Find A Look That’s Good For You

The flip side to the idea that being good looking isn’t that important, is the fact that looking good IS important.
In fact, if you’re hoping to attract women, I’d say looking good is VITAL!
Some of you may be confused at this notion, so let me be clear. There is a difference between being good looking, and looking good.
Being good looking has to do with uncontrollable elements of your appearance. Things like your height, your facial features, etc. It’s the things that naturally make you appealing (or unappealing).
Looking good has to do with the elements you can control. Things like your clothes, your hair, your style, etc.
A friend of mine who gets laid by tons of beautiful women is a short, skinny, bald, jewish guy. He’s not a good looking dude by any stretch of the imagination, but the guy is COOL. He shaves his head clean, he’s grown some cool facial hair, he wears stylish clothes and accessories. He has a look that transforms him from a dorky, short, skinny, bald, jewish guy, into a cool short, skinny, bald, jewish guy. There’s a big difference there. And it’s a difference girls notice.
Personally, I’m a t-shirt and jeans type of guy. That’s all I really like to wear. That look didn’t get me too far. Why? Because most guys are t-shirt and jeans guys! It’s too generic and lazy of a look.
Women spend a lot of time on their appearance, and because of that, they are sensitized to the effort other people put into their appearance. They can tell which guys don’t care about how they look, and which guys put stock into their own appearance.
This is important because guys who do care about how they look convey a sort of self-respect that might be absent in others, and girls respond to that because it’s a shared commonality. They can understand it.
Now, I’m not talking about becoming a metrosexual here. I am talking about taking pride in your appearance and developing your own style of dress. Things like wearing clean shirts, pressed suits, etc, can go a long way to making an average guy look good.
Other things like choosing some cool shoes, having an interesting watch, wearing jewelry, having a good haircut and neat facial hair, etc, when used in tandem with some nice clothes, can make an average guy look like a million bucks.

And there are styles for all kinds of body types. There are ways fat guys can dress to look thinner, there are ways skinny guys can dress to look thicker. The possibilities are endless, and unlike your natural looks, you DO have control over this aspect of your life.
So take pride in your appearance, and put forth an effort to look good before going out in public. It’s important, and women will notice.

Tip 2: Looks Aren’t That Important

Notice I didn’t say looks AREN’T important. I said looks aren’t THAT important.
There’s a difference.
Looks are important to an extent, but not as important as you may think. Most women have a lot of leeway in what they find attractive in a man, and this can be used to your advantage.
Many guys think girls look at men the way men look at women. When a man looks at a woman, he judges whether or not he’s attracted to her based on her looks. If she’s overweight, has the wrong hair color, if her breasts are too small, if her nose is too big… whatever it may be, the man may dismiss her completely, regardless of whether or not she’s a really great girl.
 

Because men look at women that way, it’s natural for men to assume that’s how women appraise us.
This belief is both true, but at the same time misleading.
Women do take looks into account, but in the overall scheme of things, to women, looks play a smaller role in deciding whether they’ll sleep with you than it does when it comes to men deciding if they’ll sleep with a woman.
Let me give you an example from my life for instance. I used to date a girl I was madly in love with. But because I was slightly overweight, I was always depressed, feeling I didn’t deserve a girl like her. This bad attitude of mine eventually ended up driving her away.
But we stayed friends, and as time went on, she met another guy that she fell in love with. Eventually, I went to visit her and met her new beau, and to my surprise, I discovered this guy was 10x fatter than I ever was! Seriously, he had a good 100 pounds on me.
The difference was, even though he was fatter and not as good looking as I was, he didn’t care. He allowed his good traits to shine, whereas I allowed myself to dwell on my bad qualities. And this great girl that I had in my life was attracted to those great qualities and easily overlooked his shortcomings in the looks department.
 

Remember that women are emotional creatures by nature. They are more in-tune with how they feel and therefore more susceptible to their emotions.
What does this mean?

That women may immediately be attracted to a good looking guy because he makes her FEEL GOOD right away. But if that same good looking guy is mean, or dumb, or turns her off in other ways and makes her feel bad feelings, she may decide she really isn’t attracted to him at all.
Also, factor in that not all women are attracted to the same type of guy. Just like all men aren’t attracted to the same type of women. Some women may prefer short men, or men with long hair, or fat men, etc.
It comes down to this: You don’t know WHAT physical type a woman is going to be attracted to. So approach her anyway and find out if you’re the one.

Tips For Getting The Girl Of Your Dreams (Tip-1)

Tip 1: Don’t Be Afraid To Fail

How do you get good at a certain action or task? The answer: Repetition. Practice. These are the fundamentals of building a skill.
Think about how you go about playing a sport, like baseball for example. Maybe you start with your dad lightly throwing a big orange ball and you whack it with your big red over-sized bat. Eventually, you learn to swing at a smaller ball with a thinner bat. Then the ball gets thrown faster, and your swings get harder. You miss more, but you keep swinging until you learn to hit that ball. Eventually, you get competent enough to notice which pitches to swing at and which to let go.
Every skill is learned this way. And meeting women is no different.
The problem with women however, comes down to the emotional investment we put into our interactions with them. This is because many men often link the validation of their self esteem with a woman’s acceptance of them. Therefore, in their emotional mind, the stakes are higher because the pain of failure is felt more easily.
When practicing baseball, you can accept the fact that you strike out time and time again because you can train yourself to do better. You know you’re doing something wrong, and you’re not afraid to strike out a 1,000 more times in order to get better.
But when you apply that to women, ask yourself: Am I ready to strike out with 1,000 women in order to find one that I like and that likes me back?
Most guys will say “no” to that question. And they’re the ones who stay alone and pathetic, whining that no one likes them.
The guys who do go out there and mess up with 1000 women, but find that 1 girl that will give them the time of day are the ones who are happy, because they got what they want. And next time, maybe it’ll only take them 100 times, or 50, or 10 to find a girl who’ll return their affections.
The fact is, meeting women is a number’s game. In baseball, you won’t hit a home run every time. Not every pitch of the ball is right for that. Some go wide, some you miss, some you misjudge. A few you may get a single, or a double, some you have to bunt…
Ahem.
Anyway, you get the idea. You gotta go out into the world and meet women. And you gotta go out there with the mindset that it’s okay for you to fail when trying to find that one special girl that’s gonna make your life better.

I’ve gotten emails from guys before who tell me that they can’t meet women because they’re afraid that the bouncers in the club will laugh at them when they mess up, or all the other girls will notice and not want to talk to them, or various other odd beliefs.
The thing you gotta remember is, no one cares about you or your failures. Most guys know the score, they know that it’s hard to pick up a woman and even if you make a fool of yourself doing it, they can’t blame you for trying.
Women know the score too. They get hit on all the time. To them, you’re just another spoke in the wheel of the machine. Chances are, they’ve seen worse than you try and fail.
And in the end, the only thing people notice is success! No one cares if a woman blows you off. But you can be sure that when you’re in the corner tonguing down some beautiful babe, people WILL notice then!