The Art Of Flirting
Many people flirt for many different reasons. Single people flirt as
well as married people flirt too. However their reasons for flirting can
sometimes mean the same thing or they can actually flirt for other
reasons.
Technically Flirting means showings actions that are playful,
romantic indicating to another person that they would like to take their
relationship to another level. These actions can be verbal as well as
can be physical in nature. Whether it be verbal or physical, these
actions represent a manner that suggests mild intimacy over a friendly
relationship that expresses appropriate etiquette when in public.
Now as stated before, many people flirt for many different
reasons. The typical reason for flirting is when a single man or single
woman is trying to get the attention of someone that they are attracted
to. This type of flirting can be in the form of a stare, a wave or a
smile. Once the two people start to communicate then more flirting may
be accomplished with communication. Flirting by communication can be in
the form of a compliment or personal talk that does not make each of the
people feel uncomfortable but makes one or the other people feel
flattered.
Now some people who may or may not be single enjoy Flirting as a form
of attention. They enjoy the attention of others reactions when they
flirt with other people. This can also be in the form wave or a smile.
Flirting with communication also comes by giving certain compliments or
making people laugh about certain personal issues. And when it all boils
down some people just naturally flirt not knowing that they are
actually giving of these feelings to others.
No matter if you are single or you are married or in a
relationship, flirting can actually be healthy. It brings out feelings
within that are really great for your body and for your soul. It also
helps with attracting others and it also helps keep a long lasting
relationship feel fresh and revived. Flirting can also be in a physical
form but be careful as to not be to physical as this can make some
people feel very uncomfortable.
Flirting Tips For Guys - What Girls Want??
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Barbie Doll & Action Man
Being smart, you’ll notice that they weren’t called Geeky Doll and Boring Man.
If you want to understand the “stereotypical male and female” sex symbols then take a look at these toys.
Being smart, you’ll notice that they weren’t called Geeky Doll and Boring Man.
If you want to understand the “stereotypical male and female” sex symbols then take a look at these toys.
Action man is dark, fit, muscular and
an adventurer. Barbie Doll is lithe, fit, has prominent breasts and
is blonde. (The name was very sexy in the late 50’s and also the name
of the inventor, Ruth Handler’s, daughter) Based on her measurements,
if she really existed, she’d make the average centrefold model look
flat-chested.
Ken - Barbie's on-off boyfriend, is a somewhat less-rough version of Action Man. In short, he’s an androgynous non-threatening stereotype for young girls. Perhaps post 50's people would be less confused today if the makers of these toys had included plastic genitals.
Ken - Barbie's on-off boyfriend, is a somewhat less-rough version of Action Man. In short, he’s an androgynous non-threatening stereotype for young girls. Perhaps post 50's people would be less confused today if the makers of these toys had included plastic genitals.
What’s the point? The point is that these toys work
because they subconsciously appeal to very young people who recognise
them as winning formulas in the flirting and mating game. Just ask
yourself how many blonde women dye their hair dark? How many men wish
they had fewer muscles? Generalizations? Yes. Stereotypes? Of course.
True? Definitely!
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So ... Who do you think Barbie really wanted? (Notice that both men have blue eyes and dark hair)
THE APPROACH
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Don’t sweat it! No … we really mean don’t sweat
it – nervousness causes unpleasant sweating. For most men (you’re
not alone) this is the hardest part. Men feel as if everyone is
watching them and waiting to see if they score or bomb out. Adrenaline
is flooding their bodies causing them to experience the masculine
“Fight or Flight” response to stressful situations.
Of course – the problem is that meeting a woman is neither. As with everything in life, the more you do it the less stressful it becomes. Adrenaline is a catch-22 hormone.
It prepares men for action but can also make you appear rigid (not in that way) and awkward. The more approaches you make the more relaxed you’ll become. So what if the first 10 women laughed you off – who cares! The world is full of sexy beautiful women. Remember the golf game – nobody, especially you, should expect to win the first time you play.
According to General Taurusian Von scheißen just do the math. There are more than 60,000 nightclubs around the world. On any night each of these nightclubs has at least 25 single and available women inside.
That means that each year more than 547,500,000 (half a billion) women are waiting to meet somebody special. In short you can screw up 547, 499,999 times before you run out of opportunities. Yes … it is B.S. but we hope that it gets the point across. You actually have very little to lose by losing as long as you have the guts to try again.
Of course – the problem is that meeting a woman is neither. As with everything in life, the more you do it the less stressful it becomes. Adrenaline is a catch-22 hormone.
It prepares men for action but can also make you appear rigid (not in that way) and awkward. The more approaches you make the more relaxed you’ll become. So what if the first 10 women laughed you off – who cares! The world is full of sexy beautiful women. Remember the golf game – nobody, especially you, should expect to win the first time you play.
According to General Taurusian Von scheißen just do the math. There are more than 60,000 nightclubs around the world. On any night each of these nightclubs has at least 25 single and available women inside.
That means that each year more than 547,500,000 (half a billion) women are waiting to meet somebody special. In short you can screw up 547, 499,999 times before you run out of opportunities. Yes … it is B.S. but we hope that it gets the point across. You actually have very little to lose by losing as long as you have the guts to try again.
One last thought on this subject is this: The motto of the SAS, the most feared airborne commando unit in the world, is “Who Dares, Wins!” It’s not “Take Care and don’t lose” Says it all really!
HUMOUR - MAKE THE LADIES LAUGH - BUT NOT AT YOU |
Women
are generally very attracted to men that can make them laugh. You
could read a book on this and why it works and still not completely
understand it.
In short, psychologists claim that laughter releases “feel good” hormones that are very similar to sexual hormones and this makes a woman attracted to the man that is causing her to feel the way she does.
This could well be true! Everyone knows a guy who is seriously overweight and definitely no longer handsome but can take his pick of the single women he meets just because he always makes them laugh.
Sometimes he tells jokes, sometimes he teases them but eventually he gets what he wants. It’s a rare skill.
In short, psychologists claim that laughter releases “feel good” hormones that are very similar to sexual hormones and this makes a woman attracted to the man that is causing her to feel the way she does.
This could well be true! Everyone knows a guy who is seriously overweight and definitely no longer handsome but can take his pick of the single women he meets just because he always makes them laugh.
Sometimes he tells jokes, sometimes he teases them but eventually he gets what he wants. It’s a rare skill.
Really! Make them laugh.
DON'T COME ON TOO STRONG |
If there
is one thing that all women have an issue with it’s their fear of
desperate guys. Desperate guys are a big, big turnoff.
Life is too short to try and understand why but guys that “try-to-hard” are definitely on the scrap heap before they even rev up the motor.
Guys actually feel the same about girls. If you don’t get what we’re telling you then watch the music video “Too Fly for a White Guy” by the band “Offspring” or listen to the song “Some Girls Try to Hard” by “Blink 182” .
You should be interested in her but not so into this contact that the girl suddenly starts thinking, “Am I the first girl that this guy has talked to in his life?”
Life is too short to try and understand why but guys that “try-to-hard” are definitely on the scrap heap before they even rev up the motor.
Guys actually feel the same about girls. If you don’t get what we’re telling you then watch the music video “Too Fly for a White Guy” by the band “Offspring” or listen to the song “Some Girls Try to Hard” by “Blink 182” .
You should be interested in her but not so into this contact that the girl suddenly starts thinking, “Am I the first girl that this guy has talked to in his life?”
She has
to believe that you’ll walk away at any time if you feel like it.
Maybe girls like a challenge? Maybe they don’t want what any other
girl could have had. Who the hell knows exactly, but wise up – “Too
keen and you’re a has been”.
MATCHING THE PACE |
This is
where the guys often go wrong. You recognized the signals and acted.
You talked, she talked and you’ve got stuff in common. (A good thing)
You made her laugh.
Your body language is right and so is hers and then you moved too fast (or not at all) and blew it. Does this sound familiar?
Your body language is right and so is hers and then you moved too fast (or not at all) and blew it. Does this sound familiar?
So she touched your hand? This wasn’t a signal to jump the table and try and stick your tongue down her throat. Here’s the rule – match the pace that she sets. Mimic her body language without making it obvious.
It’s a game guys and she wants to see if you know the rules. If she’s moving slow then take it easy. If she’s going fast then don’t wimp out and back off.
If she leans forward then so do you. If she accidentally touches you then you need to respond at the same pace. This is the warm up before the game.
Oh, by
the way, if she’s moving really, really, really slow then find someone
else. Even if it works out then you’re letting yourself in for a world
of frustration – maybe decades of it. Girls should have just the same
level of sex-drive that guys have. They just use it differently. If
it’s too, too slow then it’s a no go. Do yourselves a favor and find
someone else!
BODY POINTING |
Body pointing is powerful Mojo (body language magic involving the soul or your very life force).
Make sure that your body faces (points) towards hers. She should be pointing hers towards you. This achieves two things.
Firstly it excludes other people (men and women) that might interfere and secondly, it shows readiness and attraction.
MIRRORING |
People that have an affinity for each other tend to subconsciously mimic each others body language. Affinity means liking each other.
This is pure body language wizardry. You can gain an edge by making sure that you’re body language mimics hers but don’t be stupid and make it obvious.
This means not copying her every move but rather using similar body language in general – say a minute later.) Just remember, she’s just as smart as you are – maybe more. God help two people that have both read this and then meet each other.
MORE USEFUL FLIRTING TIPS |
Look at her mouth but don’t ignore her eyes
As you
talk don’t be afraid to look at her mouth. Watch her lips move as she
speaks.
Most women can sense when a man starts looking at their mouth and know that this is a subconscious desire to kiss them.
This is a powerful flirting tip for men. It shows desire, sincerity and hunger for them. Still, don’t be so obvious that she thinks that you have a lipstick fixation.
With effort, tear your eyes away from her lips and meet her eyes. Look deep and passionately into her soul. She’ll love this. Very Hot!
Don’t be Afraid to Blink
Most women can sense when a man starts looking at their mouth and know that this is a subconscious desire to kiss them.
This is a powerful flirting tip for men. It shows desire, sincerity and hunger for them. Still, don’t be so obvious that she thinks that you have a lipstick fixation.
With effort, tear your eyes away from her lips and meet her eyes. Look deep and passionately into her soul. She’ll love this. Very Hot!
Don’t be Afraid to Blink
The rule
is that the more that a person blinks the more stimulated they’ll find
themselves. By blinking yourself you’ll trigger her to start blinking
too.
If things are going well then her blink rate will start to match yours.
The more she blinks, the more she is going to feel attracted to you.
Please don’t overdo this. If you sit there batting your eyelids like some neurotic psycho then she’s going to run a mile. This is definitely a case of “less is more”. Use it wisely.
If things are going well then her blink rate will start to match yours.
The more she blinks, the more she is going to feel attracted to you.
Please don’t overdo this. If you sit there batting your eyelids like some neurotic psycho then she’s going to run a mile. This is definitely a case of “less is more”. Use it wisely.
The Eyebrow Flash
Eyebrows
and what they do are a micro-tell.
Both women and men just can’t help lifting them when they see someone they’re attracted too.
The problem is that this body language subtle and is often done in less than a microsecond. You’ll need to be a pro to recognize this.
Both women and men just can’t help lifting them when they see someone they’re attracted too.
The problem is that this body language subtle and is often done in less than a microsecond. You’ll need to be a pro to recognize this.
Keep her Talking
Women do
talk more than men. Here’s the truth – women want to understand the
world – Men want to change it.
Understanding requires explanation – words. Change requires action. Let her talk. As she talks the more comfortable she will feel with you. Still, don’t let her forget why you’re there with her. You want sex.
You’re not her psychiatrist. Talking is good but too much of it is bad. If you allow her to use you as a listening post then you’re a girlfriend.
Gently focus her on the moment and the reason you’re together. This is a really good time to use your humour skills. Make her laugh.
Get her talking about the moment – after all the moment is you.
Understanding requires explanation – words. Change requires action. Let her talk. As she talks the more comfortable she will feel with you. Still, don’t let her forget why you’re there with her. You want sex.
You’re not her psychiatrist. Talking is good but too much of it is bad. If you allow her to use you as a listening post then you’re a girlfriend.
Gently focus her on the moment and the reason you’re together. This is a really good time to use your humour skills. Make her laugh.
Get her talking about the moment – after all the moment is you.
Don’t try and fix her – She’s not broken
Women
are extremely casual about self-disclosure. This means telling you
about themselves and their issues.
For a man this can be scary stuff – way too much information. Surf it as you would a wave. As a man you’ll instinctively want to “sort-out” the problem.
Here’s a tip guys. Women don’t think like you do.
Women don’t want to be fixed. They want to see how you respond. If you try and fix their issues then you’re a girlfriend.
If you have the strength to continue focusing on her as a sexual person then you’re a potential mate. This behavior maybe some kind of test that we haven’t a clue how to explain.
For a man this can be scary stuff – way too much information. Surf it as you would a wave. As a man you’ll instinctively want to “sort-out” the problem.
Here’s a tip guys. Women don’t think like you do.
Women don’t want to be fixed. They want to see how you respond. If you try and fix their issues then you’re a girlfriend.
If you have the strength to continue focusing on her as a sexual person then you’re a potential mate. This behavior maybe some kind of test that we haven’t a clue how to explain.
Find the similarities
The
science of liking and attraction lists similarities as a very important
factor in any relationship. Find things that you have in common – emphasize them.
If she says that she really liked the film “Four Weddings and a Funeral” don’t tell her you thought it was a load of sentimental crap.
If she tells you that fashion is a retrospective statement of inner desires don’t laugh, grab your balls and say. “So is my ass!” For a start she may be right.
If she says that she really liked the film “Four Weddings and a Funeral” don’t tell her you thought it was a load of sentimental crap.
If she tells you that fashion is a retrospective statement of inner desires don’t laugh, grab your balls and say. “So is my ass!” For a start she may be right.
Just remember – she is probably looking for a relationship while you are probably just looking for sex.
She knows that similarities mean agreement while the opposite means division.
The good news for you guys is that as a relationship develops both men and women are prepared to accept fewer similarities.
In fact, some of the best relationships develop between people that are quite opposite – but not in the beginning.
No worries
Women
feel comfortable disclosing things about themselves and expect you to
do the same. They may tell you about the things that worry them – this
is allowed.
It makes them vulnerable. You can’t do this. For God’s sake never tell them you have issues or problems.
You have to project the appearance that you have the world in your hands. You could say that this is a trap.
They want to see if you’re really a well-adjusted, well-off, alpha male. If they tell you that they have an issue, you tell them you you’ve just succeeded at something.
They’re projecting vulnerability but you’re projecting strength. It may sound like B.S. but it isn’t. Only very disturbed women with mother image complexes want men that have issues.
It makes them vulnerable. You can’t do this. For God’s sake never tell them you have issues or problems.
You have to project the appearance that you have the world in your hands. You could say that this is a trap.
They want to see if you’re really a well-adjusted, well-off, alpha male. If they tell you that they have an issue, you tell them you you’ve just succeeded at something.
They’re projecting vulnerability but you’re projecting strength. It may sound like B.S. but it isn’t. Only very disturbed women with mother image complexes want men that have issues.
Touching
We just
touched on touching but be need to explore this some more.
Let’s say that you do like her. She’s good looking, sexy, fit and most importantly, she likes you. What happens next is a very serious flirting (sex) signal and you should only use it if you’re ready.
The body language you’re going to use is the accidental touch. Consciously or subconsciously you let a part of your body touch hers.
It might be that your leg rests against hers as you adjust your posture or that you reach out and touch her hand as she says something sexy or appealing.
Whatever the circumstances – you’ve made body contact. A normal, well adjusted, girl will respond in equal measure. Contact!
Let’s say that you do like her. She’s good looking, sexy, fit and most importantly, she likes you. What happens next is a very serious flirting (sex) signal and you should only use it if you’re ready.
The body language you’re going to use is the accidental touch. Consciously or subconsciously you let a part of your body touch hers.
It might be that your leg rests against hers as you adjust your posture or that you reach out and touch her hand as she says something sexy or appealing.
Whatever the circumstances – you’ve made body contact. A normal, well adjusted, girl will respond in equal measure. Contact!
If she
ignores the tentative touch then she’s not ready or maybe an amateur
when it comes to the flirting game.
If she overreacts and tries to grab your balls then she’s either seriously desperate or very horny.
Try not to take advantage of desperate women – at best you’ll hurt them and at worst they’ll come back and boil your bunny. (Fatal Attraction -1987) Nymphomaniacs are another issue for another time.
If she overreacts and tries to grab your balls then she’s either seriously desperate or very horny.
Try not to take advantage of desperate women – at best you’ll hurt them and at worst they’ll come back and boil your bunny. (Fatal Attraction -1987) Nymphomaniacs are another issue for another time.
If you’re comfortable with the way things are going then your touches will become longer and more obviously deliberate. If she’s hot for you then she’ll keep pace with you and do the same. Both your intentions are clear – physical contact is very OK!
No ... we can’t just be friends!
We’ll
keep this short. If you’re unlucky, or unskilled, then your contact
will cool down. She likes you but not in the way you want.
No matter how much you want this woman, the moment she says “Let’s be friends” then do this: Leave! You don’t want to be her friend you want to be her lover.
Biologically, she’s classed you as a supporter not a mate. We’ll say it again, “leave”. You’re wasting your time.
By leaving you might actually gain a second chance. You’ve redefined the game in a dramatic way.
No matter how much you want this woman, the moment she says “Let’s be friends” then do this: Leave! You don’t want to be her friend you want to be her lover.
Biologically, she’s classed you as a supporter not a mate. We’ll say it again, “leave”. You’re wasting your time.
By leaving you might actually gain a second chance. You’ve redefined the game in a dramatic way.
Where to now?
From
here on out it is really about how far you go. Perhaps you’ll kiss a
few times and agree to meet again or perhaps you’ll wind up in bed
together engaged in wild monkey sex. Just remember that the further
you want it to go the more body language signals you’ll need to send to
each other.
For
women this is a much more serious commitment than you’re making. If it
all goes wrong then they wind up with a kid and you wind up somewhere
else having fun while some rug rat chews (often painfully) on their
nipples as they count the stretch marks that your night of passion left
them with.
Don’t be
the bastard that you’re capable of being. Realize that for a woman
to let you into her life she is taking a far bigger risk than you are.
She can genuinely sense what kind of person you really are. The
“force” is definitely “with” women when it comes to this stuff. She’ll
instinctively know if you just want a one-night-stand even if you don’t
know that you do. The more you truly believe that you want to be with
her, the more likely she is to say yes. We agree … it’s very mystic.
The Morning After
It’s the
morning after - you’re sticky, worried about your breath, there’s a
funny tingle where there shouldn't be and your hair looks like a
squirrel has been sleeping in it.
Don’t wake up, leap out of bed and start dancing round the room chanting, “We did it, we did it!”
Never slump your shoulders and say. “This might have been a mistake.” Remember, women compare notes. No matter how scared you are that you had unprotected sex, be cool, loving, and keep on flirting. You may never see her again or you may wind up marrying her but either way she wants to know (believe) that this wasn’t a really bad mistake. Oh and for heavens sake never try and reassure her by telling her that your last VD test was negative.
Don’t wake up, leap out of bed and start dancing round the room chanting, “We did it, we did it!”
Never slump your shoulders and say. “This might have been a mistake.” Remember, women compare notes. No matter how scared you are that you had unprotected sex, be cool, loving, and keep on flirting. You may never see her again or you may wind up marrying her but either way she wants to know (believe) that this wasn’t a really bad mistake. Oh and for heavens sake never try and reassure her by telling her that your last VD test was negative.
This is
what you do. You’ll either both feel really amazing and have sex again
or you’ll feel a little awkward and need some time to reassess where
you are. If it’s the latter then you’ll take a shower and give her
some personal space to clean her self up and regain her composure. You will
tell her what a fantastic time you had and how incredible it was to be
with her. You’ll kiss her neck and hold her without grabbing her
breasts or bum. You’ll agree to meet her later even if you don't set
an actual time or date..
Make the Effort
Flirting
is one of the magic ingredients that makes relationships work. Don’t
try and laugh this off. If you do then one day you’ll be sitting in a
divorce court, watching your life fall to pieces, and remember that we
warned you! Never stop flirting with that one person you eventually
love.
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