The flip side to the idea that being good looking isn’t that important, is the fact that looking good IS important.
In fact, if you’re hoping to attract women, I’d say looking good is VITAL!
Some of you may be confused at this notion, so let me be clear. There is a difference between being good looking, and looking good.
Being good looking has to do with uncontrollable elements of your appearance. Things like your height, your facial features, etc. It’s the things that naturally make you appealing (or unappealing).
Looking good has to do with the elements you can control. Things like your clothes, your hair, your style, etc.
A friend of mine who gets laid by tons of beautiful women is a short, skinny, bald, jewish guy. He’s not a good looking dude by any stretch of the imagination, but the guy is COOL. He shaves his head clean, he’s grown some cool facial hair, he wears stylish clothes and accessories. He has a look that transforms him from a dorky, short, skinny, bald, jewish guy, into a cool short, skinny, bald, jewish guy. There’s a big difference there. And it’s a difference girls notice.
Personally, I’m a t-shirt and jeans type of guy. That’s all I really like to wear. That look didn’t get me too far. Why? Because most guys are t-shirt and jeans guys! It’s too generic and lazy of a look.
Women spend a lot of time on their appearance, and because of that, they are sensitized to the effort other people put into their appearance. They can tell which guys don’t care about how they look, and which guys put stock into their own appearance.
This is important because guys who do care about how they look convey a sort of self-respect that might be absent in others, and girls respond to that because it’s a shared commonality. They can understand it.
Now, I’m not talking about becoming a metrosexual here. I am talking about taking pride in your appearance and developing your own style of dress. Things like wearing clean shirts, pressed suits, etc, can go a long way to making an average guy look good.
Other things like choosing some cool shoes, having an interesting watch, wearing jewelry, having a good haircut and neat facial hair, etc, when used in tandem with some nice clothes, can make an average guy look like a million bucks.
In fact, if you’re hoping to attract women, I’d say looking good is VITAL!
Some of you may be confused at this notion, so let me be clear. There is a difference between being good looking, and looking good.
Being good looking has to do with uncontrollable elements of your appearance. Things like your height, your facial features, etc. It’s the things that naturally make you appealing (or unappealing).
Looking good has to do with the elements you can control. Things like your clothes, your hair, your style, etc.
A friend of mine who gets laid by tons of beautiful women is a short, skinny, bald, jewish guy. He’s not a good looking dude by any stretch of the imagination, but the guy is COOL. He shaves his head clean, he’s grown some cool facial hair, he wears stylish clothes and accessories. He has a look that transforms him from a dorky, short, skinny, bald, jewish guy, into a cool short, skinny, bald, jewish guy. There’s a big difference there. And it’s a difference girls notice.
Personally, I’m a t-shirt and jeans type of guy. That’s all I really like to wear. That look didn’t get me too far. Why? Because most guys are t-shirt and jeans guys! It’s too generic and lazy of a look.
Women spend a lot of time on their appearance, and because of that, they are sensitized to the effort other people put into their appearance. They can tell which guys don’t care about how they look, and which guys put stock into their own appearance.
This is important because guys who do care about how they look convey a sort of self-respect that might be absent in others, and girls respond to that because it’s a shared commonality. They can understand it.
Now, I’m not talking about becoming a metrosexual here. I am talking about taking pride in your appearance and developing your own style of dress. Things like wearing clean shirts, pressed suits, etc, can go a long way to making an average guy look good.
Other things like choosing some cool shoes, having an interesting watch, wearing jewelry, having a good haircut and neat facial hair, etc, when used in tandem with some nice clothes, can make an average guy look like a million bucks.
And there are styles for all kinds of body types. There are ways fat guys can dress to look thinner, there are ways skinny guys can dress to look thicker. The possibilities are endless, and unlike your natural looks, you DO have control over this aspect of your life.
So take pride in your appearance, and put forth an effort to look good before going out in public. It’s important, and women will notice.
So take pride in your appearance, and put forth an effort to look good before going out in public. It’s important, and women will notice.
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